by: Charles Van Order
Self esteem can easily be described as a mental awareness of who you are and being happy with this. Having positive self esteem can not only change how you view life but also create a better life for yourself. If you start to think more positively about yourself, your surroundings tend to be happier,and you can live a much healthier life. It is extremely important that you understand and exercises the power of positive self esteem. Here are some ways that can help.
Know your strengths
One of the first ways someone can experience the beauty of this beautiful existence is to grab a paper and pen, sit down, and start to make a list of all the strengths that they may have. Usually a person who is suffering from low self esteem is likely to feel that they don’t have a lot of capabilities in their life. The usually feel depressed and sometimes jealous of their counterparts that appear to have all the talent and skills to get through the hard times that life brings to them. Though, once they start to actually see what they have written down, they start to put into perspective what qualities they do posses. Though it is not the complete cure to know ones strengths, they also must trust and believe in them. Try to think of situations in which you felt empowered while using any strength that you may have listed.
Know your weaknesses
On another piece of paper, you will want to create another list. This time you are going to write down all your weaknesses that you are aware of. Try to dig deep within yourself when writing this list. These are usually things, that you may or may not know about yourself, that you are unhappy with. Try to be completely honest when writing this list. Think about comments that you may have heard from others. Things that bother you when someone says it to you. Don’t be hard on yourself when writing this. There is a reason why you are performing this exercise.
Knowing your outcome
Now that your list is complete, on yet another piece of paper, you will want to start to write yourself a set of goals. These goals should be realistic. You don’t want to put down something like:
“by the end of the month I will no longer lose my temper.”
Instead, try writing:
“that every time I start to feel my anger get to a certain level, I will walk away and focus on my breathing.”
By setting our goals to high, it can distract us from reaching our achievements if we fail to achieve them. It is important for you to create these lists. It helps in you to see your progress. Understand that by changing our weaknesses into strengths, it will help you to progress in having a more positive self esteem.
Changing your surroundings
Another important things to do when you are trying to better your self esteem is to change your environment. I don’t just mean rearranging your furniture. I am talking about changing people. If your in a relationship were the person your with is always putting you down, you need to ask yourself if this is benefiting you.
Sometimes we do not have to be in a partnered relationship to have people effect us negatively. It could be a good friend, co-worker, or even your boss. The best thing to do is try to make as much distance from these people as possible. Surrounding yourself with people that not only make you feel good but help you to grow and become better.
Understanding Change
Another thing you might start to notice, when bettering your self esteem, is that yourself begins to change. The thing you may have been satisfied doing as a career/lifestyle may not be as appealing. You may start to feel that people you enjoyed time with to be not so much fun. Maybe the bar you used to hang is just not so enjoyable. Instead, you find these things sort of fading from your life. Being replaced by new people, places. I only state this because it can be a normal experience. Some people feel as though something is wrong. Though it is natural to be concerned, don’t be. This is just you, rearranging things in your life to fit the new you.
These are only a few, simple steps in helping to create a more positive self esteem. Know that they may seem easy, the actual work involved can be complex. Understand that changing yourself does not happen over night. You can not easily change a lifetime of experience to a positive in an instant. Be patient and know that all the hard work will soon pay itself off. Whether you are aware of it or not.
I would love to hear from you regarding your self esteem. Have you tried any of these steps above? Have you done something different that has helped you to get to where you are now?
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